People say the key to a successful relationship is communication. However, we can get caught in old habits and patterns of communication. Wether it be something we learned from our parents or a defensive way of responding from past pain, it’s important to learn to communicate effectively.

Expressing your thoughts and feelings can be challenging and requires mindfulness. From time to time when you get irritated by your lover, relatives, co-workers or friends, is a great opportunity to improve your communication habits.

1. Always use positive acknowledgement first.

2. Avoid using words such as ‘always’ and ‘never,’ which are sharp and cutting.

3. Diffuse an argument by listening more.

4. When speaking be conscious of your words and tone of voice.

5. Don’t be passive aggressive. Say what you feel.

Anger never helps solve a problem. That does not mean suppress your anger – take time to calm down and express yourself in a way that is respectful.  Frame your words in a nice way to have a better chance at a positive and productive outcome. And when someone says something that makes you want to lash out on them, press your tongue to the roof of your mouth to stop yourself from saying something rude.

You are going to take two steps forward only to take one step back.  There is going to be both laughter and tears going forward.  Be quick to apologize and slow to blame.

Remember, when it comes to relationships, communication is key. The words you choose can be the difference between a relationship where there’s constant drama or one that romantic.